To meet new like-minded people in your host country, coach Patti McCarthy strongly advises devising a networking strategy.
A team sport
“Firstly, I would say making friends as an expat is a team sport so get your partner involved,” says Patti, a coach who has lived all around the world as an expat. “Some expat partners might feel like the onus is on them to form a social network in their host country as their partner is typically on a steep learning curve with work. By the time it’s Friday, socialising might be the last thing the working partner wishes to do! But I’d encourage expat partners to talk with their significant other about the need to make friends together as a couple. You’ll have more success if you are both on the same page and making an effort.”
Put yourself out there
“Making friends as an expat, like any sales job, is a numbers game. If you only attend a social / networking event every four weeks that means you only have one chance a month to meet people. Two events a week means you have eight opportunities a month. So put yourself out there to get more more results,” says Patti.
Where to start?
If your next question is ‘But I don’t know where to meet people…’ Patti suggests looking for yourself online: “Search for activities related to your passions and hobbies in your area. Or if you’re curious about trying something new, now’s your chance. If you follow your interests, you will increase the odds of meeting someone you click with.”
Keep it casual!
“Over the years I have noticed that some expats look for too much in a new friendship. They are fixated on ‘best friend potential’, when all they need is a companion (or a few companions) – someone to play tennis with, someone to have coffee with, or someone to go to the cinema with. You can keep it casual!” says Patti, who agrees that it is undoubtedly easier to meet other expats. “It often requires more strategy, if you want to interact and befriend locals. Let’s face it you need them more than they need you. But it can be done. For example, volunteering, playing sports, or joining community-based events can be great ways to connect with like-minded locals. Whatever you do, don’t tell them you might not be here very long – why would they make the effort if they know you are leaving soon?”
This article was originally published for the thousands of expat partners that Global Connection supports around the globe. It is reproduced here in its original form.
